Today a friend sent me this poem by Rumi (1207-1273 A.D.), the Persian mystic:

“One day your heart will take you to your lover.
One day your soul will carry you to the Beloved.
Don't get lost in your pain -
Know that one day your pain will become your cure.”

I agree with this completely, but it’s not quite so simple…

“One day your heart will take you to your lover.
One day your soul will carry you to the Beloved.”

I agree - someday we will be with our true lover, our most Beloved soul and souls.
But it may not happen in this particular human lifetime, that’s not always the Plan.

Knowing our life as eternal, knowing death as just ‘passing over’ (crossing dimensions),
Our longing and loneliness dissolve in faith -- someday we will return to true home.

Those who come from Light return to Light; those of Light shall one day reunite in Light.
This is not emotional hope, it’s a Law of Creation - those of like-nature evolve and join together.

For those who long to meet their soulmate or feel discouraged in painful relationships today,
It’s very helpful to ‘take the long view’ and remember this human life is temporary and not ideal.

3D incarnation is a training, a testing, a sacrifice in service to all - but an incarnation is not forever.
Forever awaits us when we depart this dimension; without doubt, then our Beloved appears.

One teacher said:

“There is no remedy for love, but to love more.”
(Henry David Thoreau)

Broken-hearted, longing for love, regretting the past, ashamed of relationship failures…
There is no remedy but to love more - loving self while drenched, drowned in rainstorms of distress.

To “love more” is the way of self-healing, leading to release of painful mind process -
It may be slow and difficult, but we have no other spiritual path.

Rumi agrees:

“Don't get lost in your pain - know that one day your pain will become your cure.”

It seems strange, how can my pain become my cure?

Not rejecting pain, I accept it as my friend - my 100% responsibility for creating it all by myself.
I experience this pain due to my own emotional blockages, personal desires, spiritual confusion.
If I were more evolved, such pain wouldn’t arise - but I am what I am, with no one to blame.

Getting “lost in your pain” is the opposite of using pain for self-healing.
We get lost by circular thinking, self-punishment, wallowing in emotional distress and self-pity.

Lost in our pain, we fall into a dark hole of self-rejection - hating ourselves and our mind process.
Hating inner pain or darkness, we build ever more walls and cells of self-limitation and woe.

“…your pain will become your cure.”

Tears fall, eyes open pouring salty rivers of sadness.
Innocence and ignorance crying; we’re all spiritual children.
Heart opens to receive the falling teardrops, and pain is my cure.

Scott Mandelker PhD
San Francisco, CA
February 19, 2008